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The first thing to understand is that there are two types of stalkers: psychotic (meaning they have a pre-existing psychotic disorder) and non-psychotic (meaning they may be affected by a mental disorder or external pressure but are not psychotic). In addition, your character may have a mental illness, such as schizophrenia, that leads them to stalk, or they may have what they believe to be a rational reason for doing the stalking.
Psychotic stalkers usually have psychotic disorders that, in part, lead to stalking. These include delusional disorder, schizoaffective disorder, and schizophrenia, among others. All these may lead to a delusion called erotomania, in which the affected person (in this case, the stalker) believes that another person is in love with them, when, in fact, they are not. The victim is usually a stranger or someone the stalker idolises; for example, a celebrity.
However, most stalkers are Non-Psychotic and are usually affected by a variety of mental disorders or external pressures. These may include depression, adjustment disorder, or, commonly, a personality disorder. Drug and substance abuse and dependency can lead to habits including stalking. Additionally, the stalker may be involved in a situation that does not enable or allow them to successfully be with the person they obsess over, causing them to stalk the person instead.
According to “A Study of Stalkers”, there are five types of non-psychotic stalkers:
- Rejected stalkers pursue their victims in order to reverse, correct, or avenge a rejection (e.g. divorce, separation, termination).
- Resentful stalkers pursue a vendetta because of a sense of grievance against the victims – motivated mainly by the desire to frighten and distress the victim.
- Intimacy seekers seek to establish an intimate, loving relationship with their victim. To many of them the victim is a long-sought-after soul mate, and they were ‘meant’ to be together.
- Incompetent suitors, despite poor social or courting skills, have a fixation, or in some cases, a sense of entitlement to an intimate relationship with those who have attracted their amorous interest. Their victims are most often already in a dating relationship with someone else.
- Predatory stalkers spy on the victim in order to prepare and plan an attack – often sexual – on the victim.
Despite all this, Paul Mullen suggests that only 10% of stalkers have a serious mental disorder. Read more about that here in an interview.
Depending on what type of stalker you’re playing, and also what their reason for stalking is, playing the character will vary greatly. However, generally (if they are non-psychotic and you are playing the “generic stalker” archetype), they will be obsessive, narcissistic and unable to see reason. They will often have an image of the person they obsess over that is unrealistic, and, upon seeing the real personality of the person, will be unable to cope with the situation. Your stalker will probably send “gifts” and letters to their victim, and as the obsession grows they may start following the person or turning up outside their house. A continued belief that they deserve to be with the person, or that they are “meant” to be together, is usually prominent.
According to Dr. J. Reid Meloy, this is the typical stalking progression:
- After initial contact, the stalker develops feelings like infatuation, and therefore places the love object on a pedestal.
- The stalker then begins to approach the object. It might take a while, but once contact is made, the stalker’s behavior sets him up for rejection.
- Rejection triggers the delusion through which the stalker projects his own feelings onto the object: She loves me, too.
- The stalker also develops intense anger to mask his shame, which fuels the obsessive pursuit of the object. He now wants to control through harassment or injury.
- The stalker must restore his narcissistic fantasy.
- Violence is most likely to occur when the love object is devalued, as through an imagined betrayal.
Read more about that here.
Remember that stalkers will usually target strangers or people that have never dated them before; usually, the victim will be surprised when the stalker confronts them with their infatuation.
To find out more, I’d suggest doing a Google Search and reading into a few of the articles you find! Stalking is a very broad subject and the way your character interacts with their victim will differ greatly depending on their situation, as well as their reasons for stalking.
Hope I helped!
otay thank you!
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